Marlo Christopher Gulley (Lost in The Nation's Silent Mass Disaster) My Journey

In 2007, Nancy Ritter said, "If you ask most Americans about a mass disaster, they’re likely to think of the 9/11 attacks on the World Trade Center, Hurricane Katrina, or the Southeast Asian tsunami. Very few people—including law enforcement officials—would think of the number of missing persons and unidentified human remains in our Nation as a crisis. The facts are sobering.

On any given day, there are as many as 100,000 active missing persons cases in the United States. Every year, tens of thousands of people vanish under suspicious circumstances. Viewed over a 20-year period, the number of missing persons can be estimated in the hundreds of thousands."

According to the National Missing and Unidentified Persons (NamUS) database, which is funded by the U.S. Department of Justice, more than 600,000 people go missing annually. At the time of this post my son is counted among those missing.

This occurrence of missing persons is referred to as "The Nation's Silent Mass Disaster" by experts. (

In 2017 when Chris went missing, we began posting candles to the Facebook page created by Stormy Dean, family advocate for missing people. (

This Facebook page represent our hope, strength, outreach and love. Stormy also curates the page (Light of Hope. Family Support for Missing Persons | Facebook)

MCG candles and such is my contribution to my son's legacy. It is also an effort to continue to spread awareness that he along with others missing are loved and matter too. It is my way of ensuring that a light is lit for Chris's pathway home.

The purpose of this blog is to continue to coexist with the pain by sharing what it's like to be a mother facing this disaster. It's a place of escape and solace in the midst of the storm.

My hope is to win the fight against my grief, not the other way around. One of the things that so many of us agree on is that "there are no words".... The first thing that pops in our heads is a gasp followed by OMG!!!! What's next after that? Let's stop being silent! Let's not allow the pain of this to win. Let's talk about it. Let's find the words.

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